Speaking of men….
This a “work incident” induced post:
So I go to office yesterday, flaunting my slightly enhanced – reduced fat figure & am feeling FINE people, just fine! As usual, for those who know me ( and at my company), I go in and stay in my cubicle – except for short visits to the lu. I always have my music on along with Safat in an opened window for updates “addiction”
I have had my share of crap in my company but for some reason, I find it hard to let go… I cannot leave my “baby” behind – I suffer attachment issue I fear. Well, that said, hopefully I get something good before Ramadan! *keeping fingers crossed*
Now, I get a call from a guy whom had a piece of my mind last week – he butts in too much and he thinks he’s “God’s gift to women on earth” ahaa! You see, I hate it when guys try to impress me by acting like clowns and joking all the time, not funny & don’t find it amusing at all.
SO,
This guy sees me in the corridor & totally ignores me I go like WTH! Such a loser I guess…. Doesn’t know how to deal with rejection and a real woman! Whatever… after about an hour I get a call:
Him: Hi, you are looking good!
Me: HUH!!!! *la la laaaa* – what do you mean!
Him: you lost weight & you look so much better
Me: Hesitant to hang up in his face – well, really! I guess thanks bas I think your eyes go to places where they shouldn’t be at!
Him: oh believe me, I may act like I don’t care but I notice everything!
Me: you dimwit! Aha good for you!
Him: you know Chikapappi, you need to tone that attitude down a bit
Me: what attitude!
Him: The aggressive – guys stay away from me attitude that scares them away…
Me: Why would I ! I don’t want just any guy coming up to me thinking they can have access…
Him: Well, what if someone has a crush on you or wants to express admiration, what does he do! If you keep bashing every person – no one will come close any more.
Me: Weeeeeell! Maybe I don’t want a person like that – someone who thinks he can come up to me and start a conversation or some pick up line thinking I would just engage with him! On what basis a9lan! Doesn’t make sense!
Him: So, if a guy wants to give you a sign, what does he do!
Me: Nothing!
Him: How so! You don’t give anyone a chance!
Me: No! I’d rather have that guy send someone – a friend or whatever to ask first not barge in like a shuttle with the speed of light!
Him: yeah but that’s sooo “old fashion” and no one does it any more…..
Me: I’d rather it happen that way because that person has to put in mind the counter person’s reaction – one cannot do this until he has a sign from the girl otherwise he’ll be in the “hot seat” – embarrassed which will make him diss the girl of course….
Blah bla blaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah – blah blah blaaaaaaaah! Balaaal aaa laaaa BLAH!
Me: Ok dude! I gotta do something! See ya! Sianoraaaa succaaaaaaaaaaaa!
*tchick!* phone’s down – I look at Blue & tell her the whole thing – we both think something fishy’s going on!
Girls, how do you like a guy to approach you….
1. Pickup lines, do they work with you!
2. Following you like a shadow
3. Being romantic, leaving flowers on your car :)
4. Sending a friend to talk to you…
What do you think is guys’ best means – method to approach females (without scaring them of course)
P.S: Do share personal stories & GUYS – you can pitch in too !! :P
ANOTHER P.S: Am happy with what I have :) *sigghhhhh*
September 6th, 2007 at
!!!! waiting for the answer of your question !!!
September 6th, 2007 at
hMMMM… Knock my door ? n___n
September 6th, 2007 at
well
a friend once said….don’t think you’re so special…you are unique…just like everybody else.
anyhow, you make guys look so bad, and the guy-type you are talking about is just a friction of all.
I find it offensive that you have this view of guys.
September 6th, 2007 at
“…Do share personal stories & GUYS ..” ?! :I
whats going on in that company ?:I
1-Pickup lines! : In my ” case ” theres NO WORDs :I
2-Following like a shadow ! : spOoky :I
3-Romantic guy ! : whats that ? :I
4-Friend !: like his XGF :I
??? ??? ??? ” ?????? ” ???? :I
September 6th, 2007 at
well i like the ashkara in ur face, i like u , do u like me situation? ma7ib sending friends, following me, sending me anything, first establish the scene then start with the courtship weirdness!
September 6th, 2007 at
Guys – & I mean “the guys” :
I guess you have to wait n’ read if the girls have anything to say about that – remember it’s neither my fault nor yours – it’s the action of some men out there, that get us females ticked… SO, you dimwits :P – do not assume I am generalizing here – NOT ALL MEN ARE THE SAME – well, my father ain’t the same! So, for future references- NO, I ain’t a men hater wala lesbian wala ba6aeekh!
YES, am crazy & unique! Each of us is unique in a special kinda way & we all need to respect each other – so I appreciate a man who can really act normally and not try desperately to gain my attention..
El mohem enna tafkeerkom went soooooooo far; you neglected the fact that I was talking about this guy – the one in the post.
ENJOY THE VIEW! :)
September 6th, 2007 at
Oh I also wanted to say; I don’t think what I wrote is like a lesson on how to teach girls some morale or encourage boys to go get a female & get laid- simple question – YOU LIKE OR YOU DON’T – isn’t that how people get to know each other now adays walla women are not different now… THINK
September 6th, 2007 at
just be yourself, no need for pick up lines, no freaky stuff
September 6th, 2007 at
Hmm, I do none of the above. There was an incident though where a girl sent over her sister to talk to me.
September 6th, 2007 at
I second the in your face attitude!
Straight forward; p
Loll N. Nice now girls are taking initiative
September 6th, 2007 at
9ej Narvazteini!!
“Him: So, if a guy wants to give you a sign, what does he do!
Me: Nothing!
No! I’d rather have that guy send someone – a friend or whatever to ask first not barge in like a shuttle with the speed of light!”
ya slaaaam ! :) absa6 shay ana aqdar aqola put ur self mokan ilguy.. o ur crush on someone.. so dont say u’ll do nothing! and if u think u would rather have that guy send someone.. I think this guy ma 3enda shakh9iya.. o i think hal fe2a wayid qlela o i dont think this “old fashion” is still exist..
if u see someone really serious about it give him a chance 3la ilqel!
law kel wa7da chethi tafkerha ra7 ykoon n9eibha typical marriage with no love or maybe 7ob ma b3d ilzwaj ! :)
September 6th, 2007 at
la la laaa… la etkhaf 3alay! I will get married “en sha2allah” when my time comes – I don’t give guys whom I feel are bad – nasty a chance, why would you assume I do not respect men or undrestand their feelings! Yes, I pit myself in your shoes guys – that’s why I advocate the woman’s right to go up to a man and show her emotions… we are not in the cavemen’s time!
September 6th, 2007 at
none of the above :P
September 6th, 2007 at
For me the best thing a guy can do to approach females is to be true with theirselves and not showing off everything!
September 6th, 2007 at
none of the above!!
September 6th, 2007 at
I hit a nerve huh! Guess am an egoistic, self centered spoiled snob :P
E… tell me what you think – how do you act in a situation like this. I totally respect guys who do not degrade themselves and look “cheap”
September 6th, 2007 at
I don’t know ..
Lazim iseer creative LOL
September 6th, 2007 at
I like girls who take the initiative but with subtle advances of course. It shows they have character and they stand out amongst the flock.
If I like someone in an 3adi way, sometimes I’ll just tell them directly that I like them. However if it’s someone I really like, then I won’t do anything except jog and think about them.
There are millions of girls that can make you look their way (take jam3iyat Shamiya for example :P A quick stop for food for the guys back home turns into an oogle fest :( ) , but only one of them can make you look in their way long after they’re gone.
September 6th, 2007 at
simple!
put yrself mokan yr brothers and think how would they kill the guy who flirts with their sister. hang him, shoot from distance or between the eyes.. then you’d know whats the correct answer.
September 6th, 2007 at
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September 6th, 2007 at
An ‘in-yer-face’ attitude (possibly as a defense mechanism?) against persistent attention-seekers can always foul up initial perceptions of friendliness & may even bring about an urge to even more persistence.
But here’s a thought in your defense: Whatever happened to simply being “decent” and respectful of everyone, men & women alike? Do people have to resort to attracting attention in order to win others’ interests? If they do, the I suppose this level of shallowness depends on how much the recipient can tolerate it, not for me to say, really..
September 6th, 2007 at
1. foul up initial perceptions of friendliness & may even bring about an urge to even more persistence – yes that’s true, it doesn’t do any good when a woman argues or responds, I agree
2. Whatever happened to simply being “decent” and respectful of everyone, men & women alike? – don’t you see how cheap everything turned into lately… in my previous post – I specifically said I hate how our society stooped down so low to such levels – from both genders that is too. We are all decent 7amdellah and I personally know how to act with different types of people & impose my respect :) – don’t worry – I ain’t a “hallooqa” person.
3. Do people have to resort to attracting attention in order to win others’ interests? – DUH! that’s what am saying… desperate measurements which lead to dispute & anger hence, bad mouthing and the cycle goes on..
Shallowness yes, why do people do it- beats me! Would it stop, don’t think so! :)
September 6th, 2007 at
how about being a friend ?
jeez, is it really that hard ?
pick up lines are cheesy
stalkers are creepy
men are clueless, arent they ?
September 6th, 2007 at
Well, yeah … some of them… :) CLUE LESS, “YOU” READ ME! :P
September 6th, 2007 at
Traditional ways are the best… Door not window …
If a person is interested, he should send his mother/sister to talk in person with the girls’ family.
September 7th, 2007 at
I agree with Vixen and Chroma. If his intentions were pure then this guy would be better off kneeling and proposing to you in front of the whole company
But it would be so sweet to have flowers on the car, that would grab my attention 100%