Comments on: http://chikapappi.com/2007/10/07/and-the-saga-continues%e2%80%a6/ Thu, 09 Feb 2012 16:01:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Touché http://chikapappi.com/2007/10/07/and-the-saga-continues%e2%80%a6/comment-page-1/#comment-20849 Touché Sat, 20 Oct 2007 02:23:59 +0000 http://chikapappi.com/2007/10/07/and-the-saga-continues%e2%80%a6/#comment-20849 The hunting theory isn’t efficient it just feeds a man’s satisfaction and a man may get the impression that a better elementary understanding is established (this is highly doubtful but still it’s a man’s mentality).

Frankly, the majority might be ready and there are some minority that don’t qualify yet. I’ve heard that exclamation “when is a guy ready! By the time he’s 50!” and I had to smile when I read it :) Yes many nowadays are afraid of commitment and it’s not because they are lacking in their sense of responsibility. They just don’t know what they need or how badly they need it. Hell, some guys even are afraid to marry an intelligent woman because she might limit some imaginary muscularity.

No one can deny the strength of a mature lady who knows what she wants and knows how to act maturely upon it and how emotionally stable she can be, it’s just no matter how tough a girl might be, she is still a female with emotional tendencies. No matter how strong she might be, a rejection may not go swiftly on her soul as imaginable, I just hate to see that happening. Indeed some guys are extreme jerks that don’t know how to deal with a simple no and act childishly, and those aren’t considered men to maintain a family. If he can’t deal with a rejection then he hasn’t lived yet and basically knows nothing about life.

]]> By: Chikapappi http://chikapappi.com/2007/10/07/and-the-saga-continues%e2%80%a6/comment-page-1/#comment-19772 Chikapappi Mon, 08 Oct 2007 23:19:19 +0000 http://chikapappi.com/2007/10/07/and-the-saga-continues%e2%80%a6/#comment-19772 Qwaider, <del datetime="2007-10-09T00:13:33+00:00">khallene a9alle elleil o barod 3aleik</del> - don't go hide boy :P Ok, you have a good point too - bas to me, it works both ways & if a man is "cool" - 3ady & if the girl is crazy - 3ady :) Qwaider, khallene a9alle elleil o barod 3aleik – don’t go hide boy :P

Ok, you have a good point too – bas to me, it works both ways & if a man is “cool” – 3ady & if the girl is crazy – 3ady :)

]]> By: Qwaider ????? http://chikapappi.com/2007/10/07/and-the-saga-continues%e2%80%a6/comment-page-1/#comment-19768 Qwaider ????? Mon, 08 Oct 2007 22:06:05 +0000 http://chikapappi.com/2007/10/07/and-the-saga-continues%e2%80%a6/#comment-19768 I visited this again, and I for one see nothing wrong in this. But the way I see it, <b><em>proposal</em> is a male only act.</b> Women shouldn't propose. But what a woman can do is to let him know that if he proposed, she would accept his proposal. This way she keeps her pride and won't suffer rejection AND will get the message across that she's interested I visited this again, and I for one see nothing wrong in this.

But the way I see it, proposal is a male only act. Women shouldn’t propose.

But what a woman can do is to let him know that if he proposed, she would accept his proposal.

This way she keeps her pride and won’t suffer rejection AND will get the message across that she’s interested

]]> By: Chikapappi http://chikapappi.com/2007/10/07/and-the-saga-continues%e2%80%a6/comment-page-1/#comment-19716 Chikapappi Mon, 08 Oct 2007 00:21:43 +0000 http://chikapappi.com/2007/10/07/and-the-saga-continues%e2%80%a6/#comment-19716 Touche: No, nothing solves spinsterhood THAT easily bas it would sure HELP in twisting things for a change! DO you know how many girls linger out there waiting for that special guy to notice them & initiate some sorta thing that will eventually end up in tying knots! Well, there are many, so instead of waiting, why not act upon what you feel & AGAIN in a decent way & preferably with the knowledge of one of the parents.

Well yes “some” guys are smart while others do this intentionally & the rest are socially retarded – am sure that people – guys – fall into categories so this post wasn’t meant for all guys & no jumping aboard may include hidden intentions – bad ones of course, so I don’t encourage that – again check my reply to comments..

“Hunter” theory is valid I know, but can you really measure how good a girl is from this cat & mouse game! Naaaah, so I would like men to take a break & see things from a different point of view – a man is a man when he takes care of responsibilities & acts decent – not that..

3baid is right bas check my reply & also, I would like you to explain this “the guy is not ready” thing pls… when is a guy ready! By the time he’s 50! I have a personal opinion on this bas would not share – examples from real life..

Boy or girl, rejection has its toll on both bas why do you think it’s harder on boys than girls! Some girls are mature enough to handle it as well as guys even worse, some guys meet rejection with offense & obscene actions – real life examples available too ..

It’s not The solution, it’s just a way to get things moving :) who knows…

]]> By: Chikapappi http://chikapappi.com/2007/10/07/and-the-saga-continues%e2%80%a6/comment-page-1/#comment-19712 Chikapappi Sun, 07 Oct 2007 23:38:01 +0000 http://chikapappi.com/2007/10/07/and-the-saga-continues%e2%80%a6/#comment-19712 - Cyberowdy: Enshallah ! May God be with you! RIP :P

- TAT, very interesting friends you have & yes marriage is not something you should, that’s why I question why those ready don’t step up & do it – elzawaj ne9f el deen… & yes the man is a giver & no one says the opposite bas a woman can help around – that’s what a sound marriage institutes.. understanding & respect…
Of course there has to be a period of knowing each other before “popping” the question! It’s be freaky for sure!

- Hani Obaid : Yes, thank you for understanding bas I would also encourage the girl to be opened to he parents, mother at least before she does it.

- AMU, seems like you have a woman & you will be crying soon :p

- Purg, Explain “enjoying” to the last drop pls! Very interesting – does that include women! Because if so, then no good buddy! You should date :)

- GREY! LOL! Ok bet’s on! Next baby girl, my real name!! OK!!

- Naryat: Thanks for the example girl – Yes I know, that’s why I said it kills the girl bas women need to suck it up a bit! 3ady! O not just any guy- tell your friend never t o lose hope & faith – her na9eeb is out there just needs time :)

LOTS OF SMILIES! Keep it up!

- Chirp: You are the real deal ! I love your attitude, invite me to your wedding :P

- Hasan : Thanks for the example too, I was kinda stuck :)

- Amethyst: Will you do it :) !

- Bello: LOL!!!! Pukaaaak!

- Pearletooo: Yes, I said that in a previous comment – as long as it’s done decently & with right choices..

- Fayoorti: Well, girl – you better do something before your one goes away :P – I know who that is! LOL!

- 3baid: Yes, some people are ignorant & do not use their resources well, bas believe me, if it’s your time, everything will be easy – allah makes things work… As for the crap imposed to us by society, I personally think that the couple involved should take their own decisions! Even if one of them is young & still lives under his – her family’s “umbrella” @@ – come out come out where ever you areeeeee ! niahaha!

- Intlxpatr: Yeah, male dominance! But men use the wrong definition of the word & this has to change! WAKE UP BOYS! I love how you’re into everything – mashallah :) – song describes me! LOL!

- Deemco: Yeah – both have to be mature & wise enough for such a move

- Shayouma: Some men are nice & flexible – it’s us women that make them go crazy like that! We have to show them the “red eye” ! :P

- Maze: tsk tsk tsk! You will both end up lobely & alone – no kids, no wife to take care of you & no one to love you for YOU…

]]> By: Touche' http://chikapappi.com/2007/10/07/and-the-saga-continues%e2%80%a6/comment-page-1/#comment-19711 Touche' Sun, 07 Oct 2007 23:35:10 +0000 http://chikapappi.com/2007/10/07/and-the-saga-continues%e2%80%a6/#comment-19711 First I'd like to say that both "TAT" & "3baid" are hitting the right cords with their comments. First I don't know how this approach is supposed to solve spinsterhood !! So what if the girl is taking the initiative? Does it really solve the tendency of guys not to get married? I don't think so, guys are mostly smart enough to recognize a girl's interest and when he doesn't act upon it, then it's his well thought choice to neglect it for whatever reason he has in mind for not jumping aboard. The comments were greatly impressive, don't overlook Intlxpat comment, "testosterone issue" Yes it deals a lot with the chasing thing, guys tend to enjoy the process itself, it's half the joy to them and a way to get to know better the future to bride to be. "3baid: has raised very pertinent point of view about the capabilities of guys nowadays, getting married isn't as easy as it used to be or as it seems. Though as married men will say "get a wife and God shall guide all the financial means towards you". I've seen it and still don't believe it as whatever facilities someone may get, they have been there since the beginning and now have been liquidated, activated and used. If a guy isn't ready, then It doesn't make a difference at all if he or the girl issue the call, he ISN"T ready yet. When a guy's proposal turned down, it is fine with him though it's hard to swallow sometimes if the reason isn't sensible, but eventually he was mentally prepared for such outcome. Now if the girl takes the first step, how would she feel if her initiation got turned down? Believe me it shall suck, and the guy shall be forced to elude her in every possible way because he is too embarrassed and doesn't wanna cause any more hurt to her (assuming the guy is a mature one). A guy can't deal with such issue, how can a girl deal with it? Either ways, it shall not effect the marriage percentage, or the success factor for such marriage. I'm not saying that it's wrong, just not a solution. First I’d like to say that both “TAT” & “3baid” are hitting the right cords with their comments.

First I don’t know how this approach is supposed to solve spinsterhood !! So what if the girl is taking the initiative? Does it really solve the tendency of guys not to get married?

I don’t think so, guys are mostly smart enough to recognize a girl’s interest and when he doesn’t act upon it, then it’s his well thought choice to neglect it for whatever reason he has in mind for not jumping aboard.

The comments were greatly impressive, don’t overlook Intlxpat comment, “testosterone issue” Yes it deals a lot with the chasing thing, guys tend to enjoy the process itself, it’s half the joy to them and a way to get to know better the future to bride to be.

“3baid: has raised very pertinent point of view about the capabilities of guys nowadays, getting married isn’t as easy as it used to be or as it seems. Though as married men will say “get a wife and God shall guide all the financial means towards you”. I’ve seen it and still don’t believe it as whatever facilities someone may get, they have been there since the beginning and now have been liquidated, activated and used.

If a guy isn’t ready, then It doesn’t make a difference at all if he or the girl issue the call, he ISN”T ready yet.

When a guy’s proposal turned down, it is fine with him though it’s hard to swallow sometimes if the reason isn’t sensible, but eventually he was mentally prepared for such outcome. Now if the girl takes the first step, how would she feel if her initiation got turned down? Believe me it shall suck, and the guy shall be forced to elude her in every possible way because he is too embarrassed and doesn’t wanna cause any more hurt to her (assuming the guy is a mature one). A guy can’t deal with such issue, how can a girl deal with it?

Either ways, it shall not effect the marriage percentage, or the success factor for such marriage.
I’m not saying that it’s wrong, just not a solution.

]]> By: Maze http://chikapappi.com/2007/10/07/and-the-saga-continues%e2%80%a6/comment-page-1/#comment-19705 Maze Sun, 07 Oct 2007 23:02:04 +0000 http://chikapappi.com/2007/10/07/and-the-saga-continues%e2%80%a6/#comment-19705 i second purgatory although girls are all crazy bout me...:P i second purgatory although girls are all crazy bout me…:P

]]> By: :::Shayouma::: http://chikapappi.com/2007/10/07/and-the-saga-continues%e2%80%a6/comment-page-1/#comment-19685 :::Shayouma::: Sun, 07 Oct 2007 18:49:16 +0000 http://chikapappi.com/2007/10/07/and-the-saga-continues%e2%80%a6/#comment-19685 Hmm, it depends really on the personality of the girl.. I don't have the courage but I admire a woman can has the courage and confidence to do that. And Intlxpatr , I agree, it's a male thing not religion or society really.. but REALLY, why are men such control freaks!!! Hmm, it depends really on the personality of the girl.. I don’t have the courage but I admire a woman can has the courage and confidence to do that.

And Intlxpatr , I agree, it’s a male thing not religion or society really.. but REALLY, why are men such control freaks!!!

]]> By: Deemco http://chikapappi.com/2007/10/07/and-the-saga-continues%e2%80%a6/comment-page-1/#comment-19658 Deemco Sun, 07 Oct 2007 14:05:41 +0000 http://chikapappi.com/2007/10/07/and-the-saga-continues%e2%80%a6/#comment-19658 Nicely said :) I think it's a good idea but depends on the people involved Nicely said :) I think it’s a good idea but depends on the people involved

]]> By: Intlxpatr http://chikapappi.com/2007/10/07/and-the-saga-continues%e2%80%a6/comment-page-1/#comment-19654 Intlxpatr Sun, 07 Oct 2007 13:37:01 +0000 http://chikapappi.com/2007/10/07/and-the-saga-continues%e2%80%a6/#comment-19654 PS. *dying laughing @ je ne veux pas travailler! Je ne veux pas dejeuner! Je veux seulement oublier . . .. ."* PS. *dying laughing @ je ne veux pas travailler! Je ne veux pas dejeuner! Je veux seulement oublier . . .. .”*

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