Flesh Market
Ok, let me introduce this concept to you as Blue Dress spoke with me about:
Parents dress up their girls from childhood & maintain this routine as they grow up to “display” them in their society for better chances of hooking up with men – preferably those who are either rich or rich & coming from a well established family..
Ok, I can understand how that goes in a small society like Kuwait, where practically everybody knows each other but that doesn’t apply on or to all girls nor their families.
It has become hideous, I mean what we see outside, whether it’s girls or guys. Excessive make up, weird outfits that barely cover skin, weird Mohawks & spikes… very irritating to look at actually & don’t tell me to turn my face the other side because it’s very attracting, not in the good sense of course… oh, don’t let me forget, surgically disfigured features, man it’s weird! Everything is weird!
Why am I complaining? I remember from my childhood how my mom dressed us up for eid, she’d take us to the salon to do our hair, have the dresses ready & if it was really special, she’d allow us to put some of her lipstick on.. that’s it nothing fancy. Now, as I grew up, I found myself more into fashion than my parents intended me to be – so I’d color my hair every month, get a haircut as much as I can – shop every week & that didn’t change throughout my university years, well it actually got worse as I started slimming myself & that’s when I realllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllly got attention, which also made me think how superficial this world is.. if you have some meat on you, you as a girl are ugly but you walk around with you ass sticking out of your pants! Wohooo! You are the queen to be!
I never thought of myself as an object, a mannequin my mom uses to display for marriage – well yes she does show me off a bit but come on! Whose mother doesn’t?! I don’t really think that people do that to their girls on purpose, or do they?! Luring men by showering their daughters with the latest fashion or allowing them to be part of certain groups just for that reason! Seeing the girls at malls now makes me certain that half of them don’t even know what their girls look like when they leave the house :$
It doesn’t mean that I don’t wear tight clothes or fancy myself with colors & accessories but really, would one marry someone because she just looks “right”?!?
November 27th, 2007 at
well chika, yes! Many people would start a relationship depending on the outlook bs, they either end it or suffer with it later on wwhen they find that the outlook is not the only thing that matters.
during collage time, I’ve been noticing girls that come to collage with abaya and stuff and with no makeup on their faces, they go to bathroom and do the extrem makeover!! They take off their abays and niqab and start to applay make up! just to garb the other sex attention I assume.
November 27th, 2007 at
“because she just looks “right”?!?”
But they all look wrong…
November 27th, 2007 at
Well Swair, right to these guys at least!
November 27th, 2007 at
Looks are very important, and the way they’re lookin now, like you said we only see flesh which isn’t really “all” that.. dunno..
November 27th, 2007 at
I hate makeup on girls…I wander how can they even walk with that!! I do agree that looks matter to me alot but most of the times its simplicity in a girl that I care for more!!!
November 27th, 2007 at
the people you are talking about has no personality .. im not saying all but most .. it looks like you are looking at eggs .. they all look the same ..
sadly how dressing code isnt there any more ..
November 27th, 2007 at
Dressing code raaaaa7 o ra7et ayyam el dressing code.. problem is people encourage that.. I mean dressing slutty
November 27th, 2007 at
Whose mother doesn’t?!
My mom!!!! I wish she’d tell me dress up you’re gonna see lots of eligible bachelors today heheheh !! I guess not all families do that… :S
November 27th, 2007 at
Its a dog eat dog world ! or you may call it survival of the fittest … thats why mothers are encouraging daughters to ‘display’ in order to have a ‘rich future’
About mall girls ! i am not judging them ! its thier life … they know better , i may be misunderstood .
November 27th, 2007 at
I need to talk to your mother abit! @@
November 27th, 2007 at
As unfair as it may be, looks are pretty important for stealing glances.
However, that’s not really all there is to marriage. Not even close.
November 27th, 2007 at
“It doesn’t mean that I don’t wear tight clothes or fancy myself with colors & accessories but really, would one marry someone because she just looks ‘right’?!?”
As-Salaam ‘Alaykum. I thought you wore a hijaab. Maybe a “hijaab”?
November 27th, 2007 at
you want to talk to my mother ? why chika why? What did i do now ?
November 27th, 2007 at
? ????? ?????? ? ???? ???? ? ??????
Yes I do wear a hejab – maybe to you it won’t sound like it’s the right one but every person knows his – her limiations when it comes to religion… I admitt! I may not be the best – role model for the covered girls out there but at the same time I know how to dress up decently… I know one should never compare to bad things (in this case i wasn’t) bas the whole post is about other girls -el sfoor which I don’t mind as long as they don’t look like they want to be picked up! bas…
November 27th, 2007 at
LOL Grey! Not you, although i should consider that! it’s Vixen’s mom I need to talk with!
November 28th, 2007 at
OMG I’ve been wondering about the same thing too Chika, madri lesh ya3ni 3abalhom enah il shakil ohwa kil shay to meet someone.
November 28th, 2007 at
Hehehehehe sure thing when u come over you can do that : P
November 28th, 2007 at
Attention All Girls ..
Wearing Slutty -> Looking Slutty -> Being Followed By 3agadation Army -> Being Less Respective By People -> Limiting Your Marriage Chances (Increasing Your Divorce Chances If Already Married) -> Living as a Loser -> GO DIE! :D
November 28th, 2007 at
Yeah true! You know, I never used make-up in my university years, only in weddings before I got married, my wedding lol, and some few very special occasions.. But to go to uni all dressed and made up?? That was a no-no.I could hardly wake-up let alone apply make-up! Not to mention clueless about it! I never caught the temptation.. and I never much cared about what I wear. When i entered college, some people thought I wasn’t even a Kuwaiti lol! i am not going to tell how I dressed lol!
Some mothers DO show off their daughters in a sad way, like in a funeral these days it’s PATHETIC!
November 28th, 2007 at
You contradict yourself with your concluding statement, “It doesn’t mean that I don’t wear tight clothes or fancy myself with colors & accessories”.
*shakes booty*
November 28th, 2007 at
CHIKA they do honey! me and my second cousin are the same age, and i never really understood why her mom had such a thing with making her daughter stand out more than me (failing miserably 6ab3an) but yeah, until ma we hit 18 then the shit hit the fan and it became a farce walla…shes still unmarried and is the joke of the family so yeah
November 28th, 2007 at
Dude I was at avenues yesterday and I saw the weirdest THING in the world I swear.
These 2 girls met7ajbat (nothing agaisnt that just against what they;re wearing)
One was “gold” the other “silver”
Gold: Gold puffy jacket, leopard print miniskirt with leggings under and heels. huge gold 7ijab or something
Silver: Silver puffy jacket, snakeskin silver miniskirt with jeans or something really tight.
They were hideous, I saw these two men staring at them with this “WTH” look on their face LOL!!!
p.s – we live in a superficial world (country), where everything is about looks and material goods, personality comes close to last. which is why we’re a very deperessed bunch.
November 28th, 2007 at
Coyote No, I ain’t! I said this post is not about me *shakes*
November 28th, 2007 at
I noticed that and am SICK of that…
It is also common here in Jordan between the conservative families that leave no space for girls and guys to meet, so the only “Market” for marriage is weddings, gatherings, women parties and women saloons…
It sucks!! Halla2 i am a circassian, o in our society parents tend to keep away from our marriage choices and let us find our life partners by our own… so as a kid i didn’t worry much anout the whole ‘marriage’ issue as i was reliefed it will come when it is it’s time… halla2 we reached tawjihi, and my friends moms realized their daughters has become ladies, so the race began… each party we attended i looked soooo plane compared to them… enno i used to be tidy and good-looking, but without puffedhair or revealing dresses or RED lipstick or altra-glittering jewellery…
Most of them got married, o mashalla they are lucky with their husbands… bs enno that’s never what i dreamed of! A husband whose only reason to marry me is that his mom was stunned with my extra-garnish at some party… No thanks!! I prefer some one who sees me in my normal every day life, with my simple formal dressing, plane hijab, average-heel shoes… and who know me with my REAL eyes, not polished ones… my REAL face, not blushed one… a husband who talks to me, discusses issues with me, works for the same goals with me and then admires me after seeing my inside…
Thanks for the deep topic Chika ;-)
November 28th, 2007 at
looks are every thing now in kuwait, its like if you drive a crappy car you are disgrace to the family and to your friends!
November 28th, 2007 at
I will never ever marry a guy who shall accept me first for how I look…nor be with with him…
Most marriages, relationships and even those arranged ones are based on look, ya3ni you see him o he sees you o if u both liked each others then it’s done 99%…
for the other aspect of your post…
well, do they do? mothers I mean?
here you are a thing..when I was a kid…my mom would turn the world over my head if I even put lipstick…now I see my lil 2 sisters use make up o la ba3ad she takes them to buy make up mn hatha bo 100 fils….she says 5alhom play….WHAT!!!!! they are just 8 and 10!!!
I always nag her with this fact….
The question is..does is with the new coming generation of mothers or it is just el world is changing with its people??..I just can’t get it…
Mothers who ever do that..shouldn’t blame their daughters when they do something that shall bring a shame on them..that is the only thing I know…
November 28th, 2007 at
ot one thingto say to this post Chika: “Hey Joe” by Jimi Hendrix!
November 28th, 2007 at
Hon!
This is an after-thought for this thought of yours (flesh market)…I was thinking and I couldn’t help with it, in the end I just wanted to write it down, not even to post it in my blog, I am not in the mood… :)
I have lot of concerns when it comes to relations, as I am in my own trip seeking a true love and relationship, many of us will draw certain image for the one he/she wants to be with, we either rush, marry get divorced, rush then get a broken heart, but sometimes it works.
And all the time I wonder, what are these relations all are based on? Often the answer of my concern is the acceptance and shape appealing.
Through all over the world, it 99% starts with acceptance of the look, crush then love? For me I don’t see love in this sense, I am to confess I adore beauty, I shall be fallen in beauty from the first sight, but soon I know I will get bored and abandon it, because I know I am not satisfied spiritually.
Nothing is perfect; can you scarify some things for the sake of others? What I mean is, if you were smart interesting one and good looking, you were in your journey looking for the one, would you accept him/her for the fact that they are appealing to you in all of your untouchable measures while their exterior is not that good for you.
Should Love be based on what!! Based on what besides respect, understanding, trust and honesty??
This makes me sick, lot of us know many married people, wives and husbands, cheating each others…should you like her body? Face? Do it with here..then 5ala9!! Its over!!! You move to another one!!!
Nowadays I see the world very fake, fake in the sense of mako ra7ma, mako beauty, make even with these people who their faces full of makeup o nothing inside..I just can’t fit in, I don’t want to marry someone then he ends up telling me you’re a cow because of pregnancy side-effects..I want someone who wakes every morning and tell me you’re the most beautiful woman I have ever met..
Finally, In my whole life, I only knew one person, who is smart, funny, interesting, good looking and would spend his all life loving you for who you are without even looking at what you look, that does not mean ena mako others bs this one I’m very sure about….
Thanks for your patience and spending time reading this…
November 28th, 2007 at
well i prefer my wife to be as perfect as me…:P
November 29th, 2007 at
LLoooooLLLLL
“would one marry someone because she just looks “right”?!?”
Men are visually oriented. Looking right is exactly what it takes to get married!