Girl - Boy affair
No it’s not the general term I intend to discuss in this post nor my relation with other females, it is specifically about the term that guys use which is “FRIENDSHIP”
This may sound a bit harsh boys but bare with me & try to give your best explanation or defense:
I have not always been that social & I tend to be very self conscious around strangers in spite the fact that I can easily mingle around any crowd, especially if I had the time to do so. As a female I have come across many male friends and most of them were / are decent which is fine with me, but lately & because of a certain networking medium It’s been crazy! I mean really weird the amount of “friend” requests that a female could receive just because a freaking smile / picture!! I mean on what basis do these guys suddenly decide to add a stranger to their list!! Again, I am not THAT aggressive bas it don’t make any sense!
Makes you think that some people are shallow, really bored & would like to have more girls on their list & it disgusts me. I am not flattered at all because some of them are so rude, because the first thing they ask is adding them on MSN, as if that’s gonna happen! Yes I am picky when it comes to friends especially boys… they are weird :/
Really?! Is there such thing as girl, boy friendship? I am quite liberal when it comes to relations but the whole thing makes me think of some peoples’ intentions – now, if some of you boys that I personally know is reading this, I gracefully ask you to exclude yourselves from this because it’s not about you! It’s general.
Friendship may be interpreted as a chance to hit on a girl in some sorta way… A way to slip into her life & get a chance to get some, especially if the girl is welcoming, as in free,as in doesn’t mind having or being in good terms with fella friends…
I dunno… does this Girl – Boy friendship exist?! On the long run, does that effect things like marriage?!
November 29th, 2007 at
Am I the only person who thinks boys and girls can’t be friends? And I mean actual friends not acquaintances, unless there’s a huge age difference..but that rarely matters. At some point one of them will think “what if..” and the roller coaster begins. That’s a solid fact in my opinion.
And this networking medium you speak of is known for that and it’s mostly used for that, luckily you have the option of “decline” or keep them waiting..for eternity.
November 29th, 2007 at
well >:) Yes I do that most of the time …
November 29th, 2007 at
Well, you could have colleagues at work who you might exchange small talk with them or have lunch/coffee at work but all within the border of work friendship. This is much easier and acceptable if one of you isn’t Arab/Q8i. But outside work I think everyone should have his own personal life when it comes to inter-gender friendship.
So, no there is no friendship between guys and girls.
November 29th, 2007 at
Its a 50 - 50 shot.
I can’t imagine that my friend “Man” will call me 3 am in the morning weeping and cursing because he engaged in a verbal or physical fight with his intimate partner :)
November 29th, 2007 at
I happen to notice that even here in the us the girl best male friend is GAY. which is something I understand… they are the ones we call liberal and open minded, but still boys and girls friendship are really limited, and if its there sometimes it’s based on a previous relationship…. like if they were in affair.
I guess my answer would be… that these kind of relationships do not exist in their pour meaning , so hey girls if you have male friends… it either you are ugly as hell or your male friends are gays
:)
November 29th, 2007 at
What do looks have to do with that!?! you don’t make sense at all!!
November 29th, 2007 at
I really think that girl-boy friendships really exsit, and i think that some guy friends are much better than your girlfriends. Since 1. they usually always DO want the best for you,, 2. they’re not jealous of u in any way shape or form therefore no matter what they will not try to ruin ur life if u fight ,,, 3. even if u don’t talk for months (not from fighting) you know that they will always be there for you when u need them. of course not all guys are like that, some are pieces of crap. just like some girls are horrible.
you just gotta be really picky at who u choose to be ur friend …
November 29th, 2007 at
Men and women can be just friends. There comes a point where you trust your own self control. It usually works best between professionals, where you have interests in common. It’s not like you are sharing your private life, it’s like you are sharing your idea life. You talk. Over time, you develop trust, and one day, you realize your relationship has grown into a friendship. It takes some maturity.
November 29th, 2007 at
It really depends on how you define friends. I have female friends, I have known some girls for over 10 years now and we’re good friends. We’re not friends how guys are friends together, or girls are friends together but just friends u know. We see each other once in a while and talk about stuff so its alright.
I do not think it is only the guys who are just out there looking for girls to be friends with. There are also a lot of girls out there looking for guys to be friends with, and most of the time the guy will automatically assume that the girl wants to get with him, which really isn’t the case. For example, on facebook I received quite a few requests from females I don’t even know with weird pictures and fake names, but we talked and they’re sweet. I don’t know 100% if they’re girls but whatever, socializing doesn’t mean we’re friends or anything. We might turn to be but that will be difficult, especially online.
I used to be very OK with the concept of meeting people and having very close friends and maybe even have a little thing online, but I’ve just put up a front for some reason. Once in a while I’ll give someone a chance you know.
Pardon the long comment, but one more thing. Men and women cannot really be friends by the meaning of the word. People nowadays call anyone they know a friend, which isn’t what it means to me or you I’m guessing. Friend is easier to say than, “Someone I know/met” so I assume thats why people use it. Friendship is when you get a little personal with someone and it is always dangerous territory between men and women!
OK ill stop now! :p
November 29th, 2007 at
ok i’m sorry guys, but its time the truth is told.
no friendship between the two sexes doesn’t exist except in one case.
the guy always has his hidden agenda….YES SEX… its behind all the doings of any male, that sometimes changes as the guy gets to know the girl, and in some very rare cases, when he/she loses interest, they become just friends (by mistake), but rest assure, the guy will still fantasize about sleeping with her, no doubt about that, and would probably do it when if he gets the chance
finally the truth has been said on behalf of all the male gender, i feel the weight of the world has been lifted off my shoulders
LOL
November 29th, 2007 at
I think it exists! sure some abuse it but its there and its rare! ;p
Well well it all rhymes
November 29th, 2007 at
i know many guys who say with confidence that it simply doesnt exist.
i thought it did, and i’ve had some really close guy friends in the past but then things always took strange turns eventually
i still think it exists, but am a bit more skeptical about it than before
November 29th, 2007 at
Yeah Joud, same here
November 29th, 2007 at
I think they can exist but only if there are obvious boundaries that will not even allow the option to think about potential. Otherwise, its very hard because one side or the other will always develop feelings or attraction at a certain point in time. Its a balance. but the scales are hardly ever even. There are friends that end up hooking up after 10 years of friendship.
November 29th, 2007 at
yes boys & girls can be friends .. but you can’t have a complete stranger & call him/her a friend tho!
y3ny lets take it as guy-guy friendship .. do we guys add stranger guys just for the sake of it?! I don’t think so!
there must be a linkage .. similar interests .. member of a group (team-college-work-fans of-members on a forum-bloggers with same interests) .. or any organization either online or on real world
those are all kind of friendships that may happen ! .. that applies to any kind of friendship ..
enough said
November 29th, 2007 at
Next time, choose your “friends” wisely :)
November 29th, 2007 at
LOL Howakan! I wasn’t complaining about my friends! I will pretend that you read the post :p LOL!
November 29th, 2007 at
Oh I never add anyone on my msm unless it’s someone from family or a friend I know and met in person..
November 29th, 2007 at
interesting post ..
and most of the comments explained different views ..
i agree with a bit of what mishref said :
-within a border .
and
Intlxpatr
..
it all depends .. on how you were raised .. where .. how your life around you affected your beliefs .. your self control ..
RESPECT.!!
Conclusion : for me it does exist.
November 29th, 2007 at
it is possible babes, but i totally agree with u, it does tend to get abused in general
and i believe its all in how it began, ya3ni the intentions, if the intentions were from the begining friendship then theres a very big chance that it’d work, if it began as a friendship being the gateway to other things then the chance is lesser
but it is very possible, even tho i lost many “friends” because of their intentions, i still have a handful that are truely and genuinly friends
November 29th, 2007 at
it only exists is the male in the friendship is homosexual PERIOD
November 29th, 2007 at
Yeah must be your smile that attracts people, or maybe because you go around saying kaaaaaaaaaaaaakh
November 29th, 2007 at
kaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaakh
November 29th, 2007 at
I totally agree with Zed ! Real wise words … SEX , Fantasy , or the guy suffers from Small-P-Syndrome so he is adding as many as female friends on his social network to feel better in his fantasies … But .. ( there is always a But ) ….. Not all men are the same … i agree with N too … i mean i can have women friends for years and not feel a thing . it depends on the level of testostrones i am carrying ! :P
Get off the social network !
November 29th, 2007 at
well wel well.
i thought its not possible cause all my friedships had gone through a “crushing” phase! so ive tried to avoid befriending guys yet recently im getting deeply attached to a guy frnd and we’re really reallly really frnds period!! and its weird cause i was always against guys/gals friendships !
i think being kuwaity/muslim confuses me ,like we’re in a conservative enviroment which sometimes pushes me to believe that “i like flan bs nono i have tto stay away from him 3ashn 3aib” u got my point?
too long?;P
love the blog hunny!
November 29th, 2007 at
No not long bas at the same time, Islam doesn’t say girls should be locked up in their houses & not see guys; It’s the way that both sexes act around each other matters & again, I always say RESPECT is the key factor for the success of any relation… thanks for coming here & the lovely comment :)
November 29th, 2007 at
@Zed’s first comment:
Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo traitor :(
November 29th, 2007 at
LOLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL!!! FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT!!!
November 29th, 2007 at
God created us to be friends, so that’s the default else you belong to Madame and Eve folks.
Why I’m saying this ? because if we cannot be friends then According to your thoughts we go for marriage for the sake of sex not relationship.
November 29th, 2007 at
They can’t be friends ’cause ohwa yeg3ad yefakir ib ashya2 he’s not supposed to think of.
November 29th, 2007 at
n. had to be done my man, it just had to
November 30th, 2007 at
i was going to say i second suspic but when i reached hamad’s comment i felt that he explained my beliefs exactly !!
November 30th, 2007 at
It can exist. the “Libido” is something that is in both men & women. It’s not always the guy who is having those thoughts. I know that for a fact & have heard it come out from both guys & girls. Friendship between different sexes depends on the individuals and their “definition” of friendship.
Personally, I think it’s a beautiful thing to be able to have girls as friends, be able to express yourself, and hear points of view from the other side. Another thing, sex exists so that mankind doesn’t die out, the videos that come out from the adult film industry are not what goes in real life.
December 1st, 2007 at
Zed, that’s ok, for all things sacred I think it is about time women found out the truth.
December 3rd, 2007 at
I have female friends(not Kuwaitis) and we discuss and talk about many things and topics which is considered as a taboo here. We even hug each other during occasions or anniversary and never felt any sexual intimacy amongst us.
It all depends on your level of thinking and how mature you are. Anyways, it will be real weird of me to make a point after 34 comments! :o
December 3rd, 2007 at
Oh, these friends are real life friends, not facebook one’s! I don’t add anyone in facebook unless I know them! :D