On girls going crazy….
I went through an argument with a friend over this; Basically, he was saying that it’s ok for a girl to “find – seek – get – have – win” go after a guy & get married to him and that am being dumb about it..
As an independent female, yes I would like to have my freedom of choice when it comes to the future partner but I do have this dignity issue. I mean, I find it offensive for a girl to go after a guy – yes, you are reading this right! Me, the devils’ womens’ advocate, who once wrote a whole post on women taking the lead & making the first step… I guess it differs when one’s feet are in cold water…
YET! I refuse!! I will not take the step you idiot! You move your booteh & come TAKE ME! I HATE YOU! God damned “Prince on a white horse” stupid fairytale! I hate Cinderella! *shrugs* am lying, I like her! Also – yes, I am old and not as eloquent as some of you out there when it comes to writing skills but I still manage to get my thoughts through, even if it was in a form of some teenage drunken chick gibberish!
December 10th, 2007 at
It works both ways. Guys go after girls, get smacked down & crawl back to where they come from never going after those girls again. Then what happens? Spinsterhood! :D
So, it’s ok for a girl to go after a guy, considering of course she doesn’t stalk, cry, beat him to death or drug him and then he wakes up finding a strange woman who claims she’s his wife next to him.
December 10th, 2007 at
Te3ejbiniiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii :)
i luv getting tried for the right girl :P
and i really hate a girl to come after me soecially for marriege..
December 10th, 2007 at
You are right.. girls should not go after guys because guys will then take advantage of the situation and think, “oh.. heyeh atlany 7alha 3alay.. I can do whatever I want with her..”
Guys can be mean sometimes..
December 10th, 2007 at
Becareful of what you are saying. The best marriages were done that way. Its not them that are idiots, the people that do not accept other diiferent ways or atleast respect them are the idiot ones!
December 10th, 2007 at
Hassan, I am not indicating in any way that these people are dumb; It differs I said.. & ratios of marriage success also don’t statistically show that fixed marriages or those out of the norm. would work fine or one better than the other..
December 10th, 2007 at
you go girl .. theydefinetly have to move their boteeeeh :Pp
anything else than that then we are to0 go0d for them so0 why to bother !
December 10th, 2007 at
I would never go after a guy. He wants me, he comes after me.
December 10th, 2007 at
EXACTLEH! I totally agree with you! Thats why we’re still SINGLE!!!!!!!! ;/
December 10th, 2007 at
Women can still take the lead and steer which way the relationship is going, but it’s all about playing it right…..So I say, go ahead get the guy you want, but by providing opportunities for him to come get you. Does that make sense? You’ll be doing the whole “find – seek – get – have – win” thing, but no one will know it except you ;)
December 10th, 2007 at
Smart ladeeeEH! Someone reading my mind ;)
December 10th, 2007 at
Watch me shine!
loooool!
December 10th, 2007 at
Just today I was talking to a good friend of mine about this issue! I agree with some of your points Chika. But let’s say a girl is interested in a guy, but will not do anything to get him, how will he know that this specific girl likes him? Either she just makes it obvious only to him so only he knows, or she just has to wait until he makes a move. Here’s the thing with guys, when they’re interested in a girl, they dont just walk straight up & say “Hi, I’m interested!” LOL! He wants to see something from the girl as well, so he knows its ok to make a move. Plus lots of girls are becoming more cautious because of the freaky stuff that some guys do, I don’t blame them honestly.
December 10th, 2007 at
I don’t know wallah I have no experience in such stuff lool!! But I am a shy person I could NEVER go after a guy, man even my husband didn’t hear my voice for a while when we first got married lol!
Bas I like it when girls are daring BUT in a dignified way, something like what Queenie said.. but it’s not me.. I just dared to walk in heels, so you get the picture right? lol
December 10th, 2007 at
Chicka .. Take it easy … look, the smart chicks (who got their guys) will never tell you that its OK to go after your guy. But don’t THROW yourself at him. Do it in lady’s discrete way. As in, “If you were to ask me out I wouldn’t say now” kind of way, so he STILL has to ask you out. Not you asking him
If the guy is worth it, and you have emotions for him. Then don’t let him slip. If he turned out to be an asshole then it’s simple, he violated the “worth it” part, therefore he’s no good.
But I’m surprised how a beautiful girl like you can have such issues. I would understand it for fugly chicks, but not you!!
December 10th, 2007 at
Thanks Qwaider for saying that … I really don’t have issues, more like “specs”… 7amdellah, it’s not the looks bas fee many factors that will get a girl going in this man’s world & when I wrote that I didn’t have that in mind – getting a guy or expressing my mischief on getting married or something. The issue is basically how men react now, not dropping how cheap some girls act. I am confused between a traditional marriage, where the girl gets to meet the boy with all the family hoogla and a love marriage. Mona explained it, some guys are weird! it’s ok for a man to see girls & have relations prior marriage and in such case, law he gets married to this girl or even dates her, there will come a time when the same guy would say: “you went out with me, what assures me that you haven’t done it before!?” you know what am talking about – double standards..
December 10th, 2007 at
So one is better safe than sorry and I always say, if someone wants me, let he go talk to my father… I have made it clear so many times I DO NOT WANT ORRRRRR NEED ANOTHER RELATION! I don’t have my hopes up for that anymore..
December 10th, 2007 at
it’s all in the girl’s hands, not the other way, never was, never will be.
no wall? :O
December 10th, 2007 at
There :@ – why does everything have to be on the woman now?!
December 10th, 2007 at
u r right but u know what kil el bnat elee did that get married 7ag asna3 shbab bl deera ;) o hatha elee 9yaer lilasaf
December 10th, 2007 at
la walla?
December 10th, 2007 at
I’m 100% with queenie. Give him some hints if he doesn’t get you then know for sure he’s playing you dumb.
December 10th, 2007 at
I don’t think it is wrong, or is bad if a woman does that. Bel 3aks, I find it very brave and really amazing if a woman does do that in a respectful manner, and honestly, tekbar eb 3ainy, simply for having the courage in voicing her opinion and going after what she believes in. Sure, it was always known that a man should lead and be the one to make the first move, but sometimes the man needs to be led or shown the way like what queenie and some other people said.
I believe that, being approached by a respectful lady is an honor to any and all men.
December 10th, 2007 at
yup! and as long as she doesn’t call you 7abebi :p
December 11th, 2007 at
Hey I don’t mind that :P She can call me anything she wants to!
December 11th, 2007 at
The girl in the pic is really hot!!!!!!
December 11th, 2007 at
Let me put it this way !
It takes two hands to clap .
Doesnt matter which hand was first !
December 11th, 2007 at
what if you both meet up on the half way of the bridge ? i dont think the guy would come up to you if you dont give hints that you like him…
December 11th, 2007 at
i totally agree. he makes the first move. he has to come and get me. not that i can’t make the first move,i just won’t. basically i just respect myself too much to go after any guy. And i think that the guy that really deserves to be with me will see that i am worth going after!! bas i wouldn’t make it hard for him or anything silly like that. i HATE playing games.
December 12th, 2007 at
I completely agree with you. I tried it once, ask a guy to be my friend, bas ba3dain he was like, “Cham wa7id you asked before me?”
La it5alenah yege9 3alaich. Tara guys 7adah they don’t respect the girl who asks them out/friendship whatever first. 3endohom enha ray7a feha.
December 12th, 2007 at
lool……5al nedfa3 lehom mahar too :P
bullshit!!!