Chikapappi

Let’s call it abusive love. It all started when I was being a couch potato flipping channels; it was freezing cold outside as I got feedback from my friends besides the fact that people are on shopping frenzy; so staying home is a wise decision until further notice…

I clicked on MBC4 to watch Dr. Elephant (that’s what my dad calls him – I mean Dr. Phil), you see in Arabic the word Feel means elephant. I do not like man at all! I actually despise all his attempts of reconciliations between drifted couples or trying to decipher those “complex” problems that only he can fix eh! Whatever! I wonder how people go to his show & get ridiculed in public!

Today’s rerun featured those couples, involved in severe cases of mental abuse – this is what I want to call it; where the man literally strangles the woman with doubt. Watching her every single move, tracking her calls and online activities… that’s besides the amazing Thesaurus of cuss words these husbands use against their wives. Watching it made me go like: “whatever! It’s the culture that matters” you see, a guy marries an almost 20 years younger girl, she starts messing around then he goes ballistic! He is on every single move of hers.. like having a legal stalker if I can say that. I just thought it was dorky! I mean, go get a divorce if it’s possible! I know that it’s not easy for Christians to have that but what would be a suitable solution for such an issue! A woman that doesn’t stand the man that she’s with and needs to get out! At the same time polygamy is banned.. I dunno; amendments are wisely recommended.

Let’s drop that aside, it just got to me (the issue) because I hate this obsessive love; kinda love that basically strangles one of the couple, drives him / her crazy. Where one is supposed to wave all rights for the sake of the other party without any consideration or respect. The kind of love that breaks a human being, making one feel unworthy and bad, no matter what you do you are worthless, not smart enough, not good looking enough.. basically, it’s when you as a person are nothing YET, that spouse still “needs” to hold on to you because they just want you around! They try to pull you down with them, erasing your personalities – brain washing you, I detest that! I do not agree on someone “re-raising” the woman to be a perfect wife or life partner.. some people don’t understand that if a person doesn’t have his / her own space, it would lead to the suffocation of that person.. slowly killing him / her.

I don’t think that’s what love is all about; it’s about sharing, giving space to grow up and excel in life… making a better person out of you… living together as long as your lives extends… comforting, helping.. caring.. that’s only naming a few..

I say when love hurts, rip your heart straight out of you, stomp it and finally burn it! You are better off without it!

A quote that I loved from the show:

I create what I fear

Being overprotective does not help at all..

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