Lucifer in the flesh!
This is now on my mind thanks to YOU for informing me of that little incident! I mean, it’s not like she’s my best friend or anything BUT I still feel bad for her because she is a good girl, to us at least..
Here’s the story people & I need you to help me!!
There’s this girl at work with us; She’s ok… not the average smart girl bas she has a “White” heart as they say meaning she’s good.. This girl has this boyfriend that she is not afraid to mention to anyone! She is like proud of him in a weird way although they do fight alot and to me, their relationship is weird but I learned not to intervene unless necessary more like never now after what I’ve been through from that.
She goes out with him sometimes and they talk on the phone, she keeps his picture on her desk which is bad for her but she is head over heels for this person besides the screen saver :$ I mean, it’s up to her but things changed one day…
I was sitting with my sister while she was browsing her Facebook account and I see him! I go like what the hell is he doing here?? He’s M’s Boy friend!! She goes like: “What!!?? He used to be H’s BF!!” …she continued to tell me that he used to love and spoil her but he also was a player! Fishy guy who had many female “friends” and she was shocked when I gave her the down low on DIMWIT! that’s what I will refer to him as..
Now, I kept quiet because it’s non of my business but I tried talking some sense into that girl by giving her advice on fixing her situation with him because he’s not young to play around and it’s time for him to be serious… no use from his side! I don’t think she cares either!!!
A while ago, a friend of mine was poked on FB by the same dimwit!! I go check his profile and it’s full of females! Stupid horny females with pornographic profile pictures ewwww and I was so sick of him!!
My dilemma..
A. Should I tell the girl about her beloved boy friend and save her the agony of discovering his shit
B. Should I warn that dimwit- like scare him off or something!?
C. Should I shut the hell up and as far as my concerns are, let them kill each other & not give a rat’s ass about the whole matter!?!!
Part of me wants soooo badly to rat on this guy, at the same time my head is stopping me because I do not want to degrade myself by interacting with such a loser.. in brief, an asshole!!
What should me do?!! *thinking*
February 8th, 2008 at
I say C! ;p
P.S You said her picture instead of his!
naanaa booboo
February 8th, 2008 at
She needs to know the truth about this man,for sure.But do it gently and with sesitiviy,as it will hurt her.
She needs distraction,as she will be in great pain,something to get her mind off this man.
February 8th, 2008 at
:p
February 8th, 2008 at
Oye Meddler ! it’s NOYB! but anyways create a fake foesbook ID and set traps , if he falls send the proof to ‘M’. Present her (anon email ) the foesbook account ( with the password ofcourse ) … but make sure you stay out of the picture … may be you will lose a good friend because you were dumb enough to listen to Me.. he he !
February 8th, 2008 at
I take relationships seriously..I would do as here if the guy who I loved was a real man..but she is wasting herself in a humble way and disturbing her reputation..
My heart so 3awarny..for her
Yet I was looking at the good side which is you have known about him…you and not someone else…God Loves her…
I am thinking ..this is the painful side…and I do believe that she has to know bout him in a way…
here comes your turn…you have to ease it on here…she is not a friend as you said…ain’t she has good heart?
OUCH I know how it is hard…………you know what!!! guys are assholes..allah yesa3enda..I will pray for her :(
February 8th, 2008 at
C!!! definitely C!
you tell her.. but from what you said she’s head over heels for him and this is what makes her blind, so she’ll end up mad at you and not believing what single word!!!
Don’t tell her… with time she’ll find out by herself! Don’t worry.. she has a white heart, Im sure she won’t end up with someone like that!
February 8th, 2008 at
Stay out of it..C would be my choice..it might backfire on you and you’d come out of it looking like a bad person. So just step back and observe..as long as her heart is good..God is good with people like her. :)
February 8th, 2008 at
C!
this girl is too stupid to stay alive!
February 8th, 2008 at
“c” just because it’s more entertaining
February 8th, 2008 at
A.It can go in 2 ways either she’ll thank you , or she will hate you for interfering in her life and she won’t believe you (I told my best bestfriend about her bf and our friendship was over on the spot, and a month later she found out the truth)
B. won’t be any good cuz he’ll just laugh it off
C. If you care about her tell her, I think she deserves to know.
Every woman deserves to know if her bf/husband is playing around..
February 8th, 2008 at
i say bel6agag :Pp
madrey in these situations i prefer not interfering cuz we are adults and we are suppose to know our best interests ! and she won’t listen since she’s head over heels for him and she’ll think what u know about him and give some stupid crap :/ bal6agag once more :Pp
February 8th, 2008 at
Let her know, eventually she will find out but it’s better to let her be in control and find out now and end it as opposed to crying her eyes out later on.
February 8th, 2008 at
D. display his profile on the screen, chenich ma tadreen ;p
and say: OMG! Thn pretend to pass out (on the keyboard)!
she will panic and try to wake u up!
“Chika wake up, wake up”!
So she looks at the screen,
Tadaaaaaaaaaaa!
Bas!
believe me, once she sees him she’ll throw u from ur chair and leave u on the floor without even checking ur pulse! She’ll scroll the mouse up and down like crazy! It may take along time so, u can snooze shway while laying there. hehe ;p
February 8th, 2008 at
definitely NOT!
As Grey said its a NOYB situation! You are not even close with that girl.. kaifha you know!
February 8th, 2008 at
I meant definitely not B LOL
Chika keep away from such situation… you will find yourself caught in the middle when all you wanted to do is help!
February 8th, 2008 at
I thibk she should know.. I can’t do it myself if I were in such situation but you seem to be able to do it, don’t you? which is great and I say tell her..
February 8th, 2008 at
why bother with other peoples business let them be dont cause yourself more headaches than you already have
February 8th, 2008 at
Why bother? because haram for her to go through this and I asked about this guy, he has like a dozen girl friends all at the same time :@ I think she is better off without him at least she would then fix her life you know..
I think Soul’s idea is good add to that using a new FB account .. yet I fear the reaction :$
February 8th, 2008 at
I say “A”, and in her case, you have to prove it to her
February 8th, 2008 at
If I were the “good” hearted woman, I would want to know - NOW. All you have to do is to send her an e-mail saying you ran across her boyfriend’s facebook account and you thought she might want to take a look, and put in a hypertext so all she has to do is click.
Keep it impersonal.
February 8th, 2008 at
I’m sure she sees a side of him that no one else does.. Stay out of it, it will backfire. She’ll either not believe you (and hate you), or she’ll see the truth and resent you for making her see it, or maybe she knows he’s a douchebag, and will tell you “malich sheghel”. Plus there’s no knowing what he might do.
February 8th, 2008 at
Oh soul said it already :)
Make get a new FB account, get some stupid pic from somewhere and poke him. He’ll get back to you. Keep this exchanging of FBmails going for a bit- ask him if he’s:
1. Single or seeing someone.
2. In love with or likes someone and thinks is just onsided.
Cos she’s all nutty and stuff, I don’t think she’ll react to all the women-friends he has on his profile.
God bless ya’ hon :) We need more chikapappis in the world!
February 8th, 2008 at
The anonymous email is a bit of an insult to the girl really… so that would be hard…
If she is a CLOSE CLOSE friend.. talk to her quietly over coffee or something.. if she isn’t.. well i don’t think you shouldn’t tell her anything.. ba3dain ehya she’s a big girl she has to know ena announcing she has a boyfriend whether she will marry him or not is going to screw up her reputation.. 7aram wallah.. :$
February 8th, 2008 at
C C C C!
February 8th, 2008 at
i think its none of ur business … its not ur job to fix the world or save her. maybe she likes having a bf , maybe she knows .. she is happy with her life so why bust her bubble
February 8th, 2008 at
I think C, but if you’re tempted to tell her because I also think she should know, just hint or ask her if she’s seen his Facebook profile..
February 8th, 2008 at
Do whatever you heart tells you. But for sure, don’t get a boyfriend like him! LOL :D
Facebook relationships sure sucks, but it’s better if your friend asks her boyfriend’s female friend that what they think of him and take it seriously like her, or are they too playing games with him. It might sound tough, but I’ll do this if I was in that girl’s situation.
February 9th, 2008 at
Well since you already tried talking some sense into that girl..I suggest you go C..cuz even though you have nothing to do with this mess..A or B(PLZ DONT DO B) might suck you in the middle and would be terribly hard to get out of it without damage done to you!
February 9th, 2008 at
this is hard , i have been through the same situation , but they was engaged and i noticed that he is talking to another girl so i told her but to be honest i still feel gulity cuz she is not married till now :S
February 9th, 2008 at
Maybe she’s in it for the anal sex like all kuwaiti girls… I say let her be.
February 9th, 2008 at
Talisman you idiot! I simply do not understand your urge to be such an ahole on blogs, leaving dumb ass comments like these! what an angry messed up person you are!
February 9th, 2008 at
Okay well, I would tell her.
Thats just the type of person I am.
I think you should only do what you would want happen to you etha you were in mukanha..(allah la yeblana 9ara7tan :/ I wouldnt want to be head over heels with a Player o open about it b3aad.. wakhizyah ;p)
So if it was you?
Would you want A , B , Or C?
Theres your answer.
February 9th, 2008 at
Tell her definitely, hal-sleazebag il’athwal mayestahel wa7da 3ala goltech galbha abyath. Why allow him one more minute of taking advantage of her? just be sensitive with her and tell her how you came across it accidentally o mo qasdech mashakel. o Alla y3enech
February 9th, 2008 at
looool nice reply to talisman ..he’s an asshole bigtime!
just stay out of the girls business let her bare her own mistakes
February 9th, 2008 at
If she’s just a co-worker, I’d let it go. After all, you don’t want drama in the workplace.
Now, if I really cared about a girl enough to do something that could damage our relationship then I would do the “I have a friend who has a boyfriend who yada-yada-yada…” She’ll know its about her (unless she’s REALLY stupid) without going through a very awkward about it.
But from what I hear (see?!) about this situation is that she’s head over heels for him; she doesn’t care about anyone knowing. If you meddle, she might think you’re “jealous”, and won’t listen.
February 9th, 2008 at
If She is a friend then yes tell her! However if its who i think it is then No dont cause you know how they are.. they will gang up on you and probably think u are trying to steal him away from her!
February 10th, 2008 at
Dr. Chicka Phill , C C is good
February 10th, 2008 at
well, tell her.
February 10th, 2008 at
I just advised her open her own Facebook account and she will look for him on her own ;)
February 11th, 2008 at
Chika, give us an update on this when you can. And thank you - I didn’t know BD was Skinny Banana! Wooo Hooooooo!
February 11th, 2008 at
ohhh god! Today I had the SHOCK of my life!
Ok, I’ve been trying to convince her to open a facebook account right, she sez ok ok.. stalling for 2 days so I asked her today again she goes like NO I won’t! I went like why! Is it forbidden to you by you know who??! She goes like YES..
I then tell her why you no and he is ok to have it, turns out she knows and she goes like he flirts even with her friends :$
W T FFFFFFFFFFFFF!
February 14th, 2008 at
2 queries….
How close is this girl who is at work with you…
Do you care for her…or does she mean a lot for you…
If no is your answer then C is the right choice…
February 14th, 2008 at
Right now I would probably say SCREW everyone here :D