“Shit Brain”
Excuse me for not being able to use the Arabic word for “shit”, it is too vulgar for females but I am trying to narrate the whole situation as it happened yesterday.
We have this agency in our building that we deal with sometimes and the guy comes up for some work with another dept., anyhow he passes by first to say hi and chat and we found ourselves conversing about marriage and somewhat.. He recently got married and I was invited to the wedding but I didn’t couldn’t go so the conversation went like that:
Him: Why didn’t you come? Neither you nor Skinny why? I would have fixed you up (As in hook us up for marriage). There were a lot of single guys of different nationalities.
Me: Walla if you want to fix me up you can do that anytime not just at weddings! Yalla wein! ;p
Him: (with enthusiasm): walla.. ok, I will do it
Moved on to talk about his marriage and past relations and the usual male blah blah yada yada ego issues with females & If you are reading this 3ady, take a chill pill ;p
Then he suddenly had this look on his face – serious constipation lol + thinking and he goes like:
Him: How old are you? Would you go along with a guy who has a “shitty brain” <– in Arabic of course!
Me: *confused, shocked* well, explain what this means – I mean what is a “shitty brain”??!
Him: Someone who argues a lot!
Me: Hahaha! I argue BIG TIME so the guy has to be patient and tolerate my opinion.
Then I started explaining and we gave examples to each other – he’s a Capricorn so we defiantly were on the same page – we’re insane!
El mohem and my question is, how important is it for a couple to be in a “stress – argument free” relation?! I mean here and I do not mean the woman, I include the man as well, does either one of the couple have to be submissive and just go along like some pet? I do not believe in that and when I see it happen in front of me I go crazy. It is nice to exchange thoughts and give n’ take:
1. You learn to hear the other side
2. Fix mistakes
3. Learn more
4. build a healthy relation based on respect of opinions. Don’t just go like: “oh, you don’t know” or “Oh, no this is what I went through and this is how it goes” ! Sometimes we become very involved in an argument and it turns personal just because of some incident in the past and at other times, one’s judgment is blurred because of lack of evidence or facts.. that’s when I, for instance tend to be diplomatic and boy I hate staying quiet but I have a problem, I give a shit about people a lot and this eventually reflects negatively on me so I am starting to let go. Not of all, some are close to my heart and it is not even questionable; So shut up and stop asking me!
Another disturbing issue: MEN, married or single (soon to wed), why do some “happily” married men remarry!? If the woman is good, decent, good looking, clean.. even if she’s sterile (sorry, I do not accept that I mean getting married to another to be an “oven” or a hatching machine), why do they do this!??
Ok, why men now can’t commit like 100% to their partners (WOMEN, I do not address gay issues here) ? Is economy THAT significant!? Is stress an excuse for screwing around shar3y way?
Ok, ok.. Is it because of us women?! Are we too demanding? or is it because we stopped doing that actually!? ;)
Bottom line.. This guy wants to hook me up with a “shit head” so we’d argue 24/7 and you know, argument is the spice of any relation :p
Music time:
Chris Brown [ ERASED ]
Final note: Am I a “shit head” myself!? :o Because I argue! loool
December 24th, 2008 at
Ah skinny :)
December 24th, 2008 at
ya elahy! men will always be men, no change! “kakka brain” big time, yay Arab males :D
December 24th, 2008 at
I’m married to a champion arguer (is that a word?) he has Olympic stamina in arguing and can be very convincing when he wants to be so I pick my arguments wisely. Yeah I guess we do have fun trying to convince each other. Does that make us a bunch of shit brains? Ewww gross.
Some men remarry “7araket nadala” I guess. I think if a guy is not happy he should give his wife the choice because maybe they can work it through.
December 24th, 2008 at
o7ayye your husband wallahy! you are amazing! lol and that is good ;p
December 25th, 2008 at
madri i dont think that someone who argues should be called a shit-head. Hmm, in Kuwait we call them “nijry” for males or “nijriya” for females. Basically it means someone who loves to argue. Bas shit-heads are far worse!
I dont think two opinionated and nijriyeen people can last together for a long time. Well, they might, but it will be a life full of shouting and arguing!
December 25th, 2008 at
It all comes down to compromise and how the make is smart enough to shut the woman up in a nice and decent way :) especially nejreyat girls like me
December 25th, 2008 at
arguement free? oh no! that in my mind equates to passion free.
and arguements dont necessarily lead to mashakel w bo3d fekri, if both parties r mature, wise, and totally in love with one another, difference in views and arguements shudnt come in the way of a beautiful union. thats my 0.02$..
December 26th, 2008 at
OMG 24/7 arguments … i hope you won’t be our neighbor .. EVER :P