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Over at my parents place and to be more specific, my sister’s room when my eyes came across this mini brochure with the Black lady (I have no other description for it and sorry if you find it offensive, I am not trying to be mean nor make fun) and I was curious more than ever to know why they had the Red big sign on that figure so I read the thing which was ok till I got to the back side of it…

 

 

I will translate the above and let you know why I was upset from this:

 

28- (Literal translation) Watching poisonous Satellite channels and pornographic sites:

OK, I get that porn is a haram and no no but can’t a Muslim after fulfilling his Godly duty pass some time watching a documentary? A movie? Some TV show he-she likes? are all channels bad?! I know that some of’em’s level have stooped down tremendously and just to be honest is garbage but we have brains and we can flip if we don’t want to watch just don’t generalize!

 

29- (Literal translation) Fall into traps of lies, slander and backstabbing:

Fair enough and true! I mean we were warned in the Quran about it however, it is difficult nowadays to keep our mouths shut and this applies on both genders not women alone! and I won’t go over verses here or quotes because we all know them quite well.

 

30- (Literal translation) Shaking hands with foreign men = strangers:

Besides the hygienic side to it, it’s all about modest, shyness and self respect and I personally find it hard embarrassing some men who extend their hands for a shake however, I never thought a man rude if he turns me down, you know we just do these things unconsciously..

 

31- (Literal translation) Not abiding to Sunnah when it comes to beauty and fashion:

Eyebrow plucking [ Al Nams ] is haram but how on Earth am I supposed to go around with nasty eyebrows and facial hair (although I seriously don’t need to do that) but still, being “clean” for your husband and for yourself is something good.. I know it’s haram :/

 

32- (Literal translation) Being fashionable in an Against Islam manner:

I remember when I put the hejab on, I was strict and very uptight about it till my father told me to go slowly and get used to it and not to wear Abaya or Black / dark head carves and praised me for the move instead of coming down harsh on me like some sheikhs do which honestly drive ladies away from doing that . I know that my attire sometimes is not “Islam appropriate” but does Islam accept Niqabi ladies to ditch their niqab at any possible chance? or have a 5 years old kid wearing an abaya!? Does that plant modesty in them from childhood, is that the purpose? In this era – time, I feel this pushes them to go do the opposite! Also, is it haram if a hejabi lady looks nice in colors and prints AND manage to be covered and decent? or does that make her a sinner?

 

33- (literal translation) STARING – not looking away:

Hmm… In nature we women are supposed to be shy – decent but some ladies sure as hell master the art of scanning men like a predator mannn they are nasty I assure you and they do more than that when they give guys their numbers or the stupid eye contacts with the BBMs and shit, so I guess BBM – Twitter – FB – internet, alllllllll is haram but we use them and again this is up to the person himself so why specify it in the brochure to women?!

 

34- (literal translation) Correspond to foreign men / comply to their saying:

I am not sure if I got this one right but if my boss who’s a male asks me for something should I refuse? Because I don’t think a sane woman would take off her panty of a stranger asked her to!

 

35- (literal translation) Ditching modesty / shyness:

Sometimes ya akhy one goes crazy – upset and voice tone goes a bit, certainly not a nice scene and yes women have to be much subtle and “soft” yet that doesn’t mean that we go into a cocoon and be antisocial

 

36- (literal translation) Taking pride in your family – ancestry:

Well, to a reasonable extent we all do just don’t go bashing people with you family name … …….

 

37- (literal translation) Working in a mixed gender workplace:

This point is what ticked me off into writing this post because we are not be zaman el jaheleya! Looooooooooooooooooooooooong time ago things were much different, women were staying home to watch after the family and in Quran we females are the weaker gender and it’s a man’s duty to earn for the household and it would sure be AWESOME if we could all stay home and better watch and take care of the men and children but some scholars really push it when they say women should work in men free organizations and that occupancies are available.. WHERE IS THAT? Even in KSA it’s hard to land such jobs so where in Kuwait good decent women could find decently paying jobs where it’s not mixed for them to support the husband financially? I’ve personally applied at schools and the pay is just not good! yan3y I leave my husband and kid to work for a minimal pay which doesn’t comply to our consumption? la2, I’d rather work with men whom I consider brothers and be normal! If you go back to Muhammed PBUH you’ll read about many examples where he was flexible and understanding and in Islam there are examples of women supporting their elderly fathers so to whomever printed this must further learn about Islam and just not make it harder than it is already for working Muslim decent women :@ Men now can’t just take responsibility for everything! Plain haram because it’s stressful enough to make a decent life and worry about raising kids and living under a roof with basic necessities. Where the hell in my case am I going to apply my studies and uni. degree? being a nurse? teaching girls at a girls only schools? or work from home? who does this in Kuwait, tell me and I will apply? Work at an Islamic bank? Even those places have men, security men? office boys – cleaners!

 

38- (literal translation) Wearing colored contacts to beautify oneself :

I for one don’t use colored contacts but why not wear them if there’s a girls only gathering?

 

39- (literal translation) Traveling without a mahram :

A Mahrams is the category that refers to all those males whom a woman cannot marry at anytime in her life whatsoever. In other word a male who is forbidden permanently, forever (i.e. one’s father, brother or son etc). of course if a women is married then she accompanies the husband and again there are many details on certain distances which a woman can go around without her mahram but in the KSA they let them ladies go with their drivers when he is not a mahran obviously so can someone explain how they allow this to happen while Hai2at el amr bel ma3roof people question every single lady and we’ve heard so many stories on women with their own husbands being stopped and asked for some sort of marriage – relation identification eh!  What about business trips?? Do we also say no unless we take a brother, father, grandfather, husband along? no wonder why employers think twice before hiring females besides all the other things we go through from moody PMSing, pregnancy, children and domestic issues to handle..

 

40- (literal translation) Wearing tight – figure showing abayas and clothes:

I mentioned above that wearing fashionable decent clothes doesn’t do harm and MEN should not stare but for the tight abayas, yes I would say them hideous sometimes FAT ASS women in tight abayas should be punished just because they do serious damage to the eye! Either wear it right or freakin take it off since it shows every single part of you and sometimes they wear nothing underneath and that’s nasty! and this is what I mean when I say that they are forced to wear it just for their families – communities / tradition.

 

At the end, I just want to clear again that I am not making fun nor am I undermining Islam or what we have to obey from Allah – prophet Muhammed’s PBUH’s saying but times are different and scholars should be more open to flexibility and inviting more people towards Islam not the opposite with such a brochure!

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