The Nanny:
It’s been like 2 weeks already since Nanny dearest arrived to our household, I’ve got mixed feelings about welcoming a stranger into our small family and what makes it harder is the amount of horrific news we read in newspapers on “domestic assistants” going insane with all the crimes they perform on sometimes innocent people. You see, it truly comes down to the simple basic word of “RESPECT”! Treat them how you like to be treated of course with certain imitations i.e not have her lie down on the couch while you are around .. E7m ! I am not going to further discuss this issue because some get touchy & start placing unnecessary accusations and we all know what some of these maids go through – doesn’t give them the right to murder, torture, run away, steal.. etc but I feel they do this out of their despair and YES I think they need to have some psychological / behavior assessment prior to bringing them over.
“LOL” was the SMS I got from the man when her went to pick her up, I called back frantically feeling that something went wrong. When he didn’t pick up I replied back saying: “If she’s not the same person as on her application DO NOT BOTHER bringing her home” ! Assuring that she’s the same person, I waited for them to ring the doorbell and I held Alma excited yet very anxious I opened the door and I laughed! Dude, I am 158 cm and they call me short huh! SHE IS SHORTER than me @@ I handed Alma who’s almost half her body height lol ! let’s see how she’d carry her as she grows taller!
I am not going to sugar coat what happened through those last few days especially with the man who calls her “you durra” – second wife – I tried in my own way to explain as show in practice how things are done around the house, how baby is cleaned, fed, put to bed and they all told me to be patient since she’s getting familiar with my style of running the house but how many times do you show one how to do something specific!? and to be completely fair I am satisfied with her today for the first time since she came!!!! She took the baby to let me “work” as she thinks :p and I can hear them playing outside and that was done by telling Alma “Yalla, let’s let mama work!” Cool!! Besides the fact that the house is spotless clean, laundry is done, dishes are washed and everything’s tidy in its right place (I much obsess on that) and she knows that by now. I have not seen major signs of her being a bad nanny and we much debated on having some type of surveillance equipment in the house but we agreed on observing how the baby reacts to her. Baby sometimes is agitated by her but we know that Alma is hyper and is too attached to me so I was instructed to butt off and let her deal with the child to further learn about her personality yet one cannot confirm if this is (having a nanny) is a good or bad decision unless at least after a couple of months and I sure do hope she gives back (taking care of the baby) like we’ve given her so far and I’m going to keep my mouth sealed since I was instructed not to blog about the nanny but I feel I need some feedback or some of your personal experience with your baby caregivers i.e do you let them go out on a day off? Does your nanny have a mobile?! How do you point out / emphasize on something wrong that she’s done?
Tidbits of the day:
1. Sleeping till 12 PM !
2. Nanny had everything done around the house which includes changing Alma when she woke up early in the morning + preparing her bottle
3. Nanny keeping baby away for me to “work” lol
4. Having some “me time” during morning because I’ve recently turned nocturnal!
5. Did lunch within 30 minutes
How do YOU feel about having a nanny in your house?
December 11th, 2011 at
He went to pick her up alone?I’m sorry,but that’s cold.She should get Sundays off.I would suggest you be her girl-friend.
December 11th, 2011 at
When we got the call that she is in the country we were sleeping because sadly the employment office only notify you on the same day you pick the nanny up so I wasnt ready to leave home with the baby along. We will eventually give her a day off to go to church and of course we are friends – like one family since her contract’s for 2 years renewable if both parties want. :)
December 12th, 2011 at
You, my dear lady, have so much to learn if you want to keep a good nanny. Even your tone is patronising. Of course she should come and go as she pleases on her non working hours. Slavery was abolished, remember???
She will be your greatest asset if you treat her with respect, kindness and healthy gentle boundaries.Let her do things her way, not your way. Watch and learn from her, as she will know things about children that you would otherwise learn the hard way. Be nice. It costs less in the end. Good nannies are precious and rare.
December 12th, 2011 at
Yes Roze good ones are rare. We have no problem with respecting the lady as for her “doing things her own way”; I chose a lady with 5 kids, youngest is 4 so she knows how to handle babies yet that is not how we measure her performance and I don’t mean house chores because our priority is the baby. Sometimes I interfere because my daughter’s used to my system and I tried to show – not instruct – mostly and she is picking up fast. As for going out, I still think it is too early for many reasons: 1. No residency yet so if the police stop her it’ll be an issue – 2. We need to well establish the fact that if she goes out, she doesn’t get into trouble and that’s by getting to know bad company. – 3. She needs to save some of her allowance to spend for her own outings and although we paid in advance she opted not to keep anything and we have provided everything to her besides she still doesn’t know anyone except for a cousin who works for a Kuwaiti family and I do not know if the later is even allowed to see the street! So yeah, she will be given the opportunity to go out but we need to be sure that she respects us, her husband and her self in the first place right!? :)
We have never had any domestic assistant, neither my family nor my husband’s so this is a new experience which we hope will go on smoothly.
December 13th, 2011 at
My younger sis got a nanny to take care of her son too. But she felt so insecure all of a sudden that within 3 hours she returned her back!
December 14th, 2011 at
Hahahaha I am so insecure man and she feels it I think but I can’t help it! My biggest fervid when I have to work for 8 hours without being able to drop in and check so teu both will be at my parents house during morning till nanny is fully capable of taking care of baby.
December 27th, 2011 at
My only only only advise is:
Dress up your baby yourself.
Supervise the bathing and nappy change if you cant do it yourself each time.
Its how my mum raised us. These are intimate details and a baby is safest with their mother.